Frustration
Sometimes I get so frustrated. And usually when this happens, it's not over big deals. It's not life or death situations. But they still frustrate me. And when I am frustrated and I can't make it better, the frustration just builds and builds in me, and eventually, it explodes.
It hasn't exploded yet. I think it's fizzled for now. But someday, it'll erupt.
I consider myself a very intuitive person. I can usually read people's emotions or thoughts fairly easily. I can at least tell when someone is bothered, upset, pissed, happy, or scared. And I pride myself on reading these emotions in the people I am very close to.
Yet somehow, I am always "misreading" things in my husband. Every single time. Okay, not every single time. I'm a bit of an exaggerater. My friends would call this the Drama Queen version of myself. But almost every time I read a "bothered" or "upset" signal, I am told I am wrong. Isn't that bad? Shouldn't I be able to read my husband?????
I recently had some training at work. It was mostly worthless, save a few fine moments. But I learned that communication has three different parts. The smallest part is the context. The actual words we are saying. That only makes up 7-10% of our communication. I cannot remember the middle part. But then the largest part is body language. Body language makes up 55-60% of what we're saying. So when I'm "misreading" this 60% of what my husband is saying 95% of the time, what is a woman to do?
Am I not reading things right? Or is he refusing to acknowledge issues? Either way, it's driving me absolutely insane. I either bring up the fact that he is bothered and I am shot down with an "I'm fine." Or I ignore it completely, scared that I'm ignoring an issue that needs to be brought to the forefront.
Either way, I lose. God, this bites.
It hasn't exploded yet. I think it's fizzled for now. But someday, it'll erupt.
I consider myself a very intuitive person. I can usually read people's emotions or thoughts fairly easily. I can at least tell when someone is bothered, upset, pissed, happy, or scared. And I pride myself on reading these emotions in the people I am very close to.
Yet somehow, I am always "misreading" things in my husband. Every single time. Okay, not every single time. I'm a bit of an exaggerater. My friends would call this the Drama Queen version of myself. But almost every time I read a "bothered" or "upset" signal, I am told I am wrong. Isn't that bad? Shouldn't I be able to read my husband?????
I recently had some training at work. It was mostly worthless, save a few fine moments. But I learned that communication has three different parts. The smallest part is the context. The actual words we are saying. That only makes up 7-10% of our communication. I cannot remember the middle part. But then the largest part is body language. Body language makes up 55-60% of what we're saying. So when I'm "misreading" this 60% of what my husband is saying 95% of the time, what is a woman to do?
Am I not reading things right? Or is he refusing to acknowledge issues? Either way, it's driving me absolutely insane. I either bring up the fact that he is bothered and I am shot down with an "I'm fine." Or I ignore it completely, scared that I'm ignoring an issue that needs to be brought to the forefront.
Either way, I lose. God, this bites.
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